Why is forgiveness important? Until you forgive, you are blocking divine flow. There has been more than one occasion where a client during one of our spiritual healing sessions has asked “How can God forgive me?”. During each one of those sessions, God has come through and audibly said through me, “I forgave you a long time ago. It’s time to forgive yourself.”
As it turns out, forgiveness isn’t easy for everyone. We have often held grudges. There was a lifetime before Jesus (so obviously over 2,000 years ago), that I was a supporter of God, which caused my demise. I was discredited by a powerful man over and over who eventually shut me up by having me dragged by a horse naked in the town square to my death. The humiliation leading up to my death would have been sufficient to not forgive him. It took me and two other healers on different occasions to help me let go of that lifetime.
The day I was finally able to forgive was after he appeared to me asking for my forgiveness. Because there really isn’t any time or space, people can appear from time to time from all different dimensions or time. So when he appeared in my bedroom, I also realized who he was in this lifetime which floored me. I then realized why we had a barrier between us this lifetime. Those people usually show up again in future lifetimes until the original situation is healed, which is why I clear karma between people in our sessions. We don’t know what happened when we knew them in our past.
When Mother Mary, Archangel Michael and Jesus appear to me together, it signals there is usually something big going on. On this occasion, it apparently was time to finish clearing persecution, one of the topics I specialize in clearing for others. In this instance, however, it was all about me. Every individual that ever persecuted me throughout all lifetimes appeared and lined up for me to forgive. Now that was a job. The undoing of many of my lifetimes here on earth ended up with an element of persecution within it. I even thought I was successful in completing that assignment until the next day. I noticed a hanging that apparently was left hanging from Thursday and had to address it on Friday and then I was complete. Whew!
It’s not always easy to forgive those who humiliate, hurt, torture, maim and murder you. But it was necessary to set me free. It took work but I finally forgave every one of them.
But what do I do on a daily basis when people let me down and disappoint me? If I carry a grudge, I will end up harboring resentment. The situation, relationship or I cannot be fully healed of the cause. That is another subject, but the cause may be something to delve into deeper in some situations because what is REALLY at cause? It isn’t always the obvious. There may be contributing factors to address as well as the actual forgiveness. But that piece of the subject we’ll have to address in a separate blog.
For now, the focus must be on actually forgiving. When you feel betrayed and disappointed by someone, it is easy to feel hurt, let down and left to regroup emotionally and/or logistically. People will do what they do for a variety of reasons and often without considering the ramifications to others. When you are the one disappointed and hurt, however, how do you react?
You can cling to the story of what happened and why it was wrong. You can justify the reason for feeling hurt or wronged. You can hold onto the hurt and make a bigger story out of it or you can clean it up. Communication is key to clearing the air. It isn’t always necessary if you can forgive from within your heart. It may be purposeful to all parties so their isn’t unfinished business lingering between you. But the most important thing to do is forgive from your heart. You aren’t condoning the action, but you are forgiving the person for the action.
If you consider the position God holds where day in and day out he must be offended by the majority of the population as they turn away from him in moment by moment. He must feel terribly let down. But he is not attached to our choices as he willingly gave us all free will and loves us unconditionally. If he can forgive us our sins, why can’t we forgive others or ourselves for them?
It serves no one, least of all ourselves, to hold a grudge.
I was speaking with a colleague one day who said he was taught that until you forgive yourself, God can’t forgive you. I told him of the above experiences with my clients over the phone. It doesn’t matter who forgives first, unless the person forgives, the forgiveness of God is not able to be experienced. It can’t be received or completed until you forgive yourself or others. And, then and only then, can you and the situation be healed and set free.
Sometimes people can’t let go and forgive out of fear of having the situation repeat itself. That, however, will be the very thing that will draw a similar situation back to you. The Law of Attraction automatically attracts to you what you believe. If you fear getting hurt or let down again, that is exactly what you will call into your experience. Until you forgive, your programming will then attract something similar to you to re-injure you. Until you let go of the story and forgive, you will only be hurting yourself.
Unless you forgive, you block your own healing. You block God from being able to forgive. You block the situation from ever being healed. No one wins if you hold a grudge – least of all you.
The forgiveness needs to take place from the heart, however, and not just the head. If your conscious mind isn’t congruent with your subconscious mind, harboring resentment will remain within the subconscious and continue to wreak havoc in your life one way or another. It will color the way you perceive the world, relationships and opportunity. You will be holding onto a negative memory that becomes triggered any time something similar reminds you of it. You may not be conscious of it but that memory will end up being replayed again and again in some fashion drawing to you outcomes that are less than desirable.
Until you forgive, you can’t really let go. Therefore, remnants of those memories will continue to haunt and detract from the possibilities that exist for you today. Your future depends on your ability to let go of the past.
Forgive to set yourself free. That is what matters. Otherwise, the original offense will continue to hurt you in one way or another for years and possibly lifetimes to come.
Would you rather move on or allow that original offense to continue to leave it’s mark depriving you of what is possible. Wouldn’t you rather have the freedom and happiness to which you are entitled?
So let go, forgive and release those blocks to the experiences that are possible for you now.