Forgiveness is Key – Can You Forgive?

We often hold ourselves hostage to standards above what we expect other humans. We all chose to incarnate into a human form.

As I was telling a client recently, we sometimes have unrealistic standards and expectations. Since Archangel Faith is my high self, there are expectations I and others might have of me that are unrealistic. I may be fully Faith but the fullness of Faith is not within me. She is a light body and beyond human comprehension. I, on the other hand, am in human form with the limitations that come with being human. We are in a more dense environment and moving out of a world of duality into a world of oneness. But, regardless, I  will never be the fullness of Faith with the limitations experienced in the physical realm.

Our unrealistic expectations of ourselves and how we are to be perfect come from a variety of reasons. In clearing this client, a lifetime of being a monarch came up. As a child she was expected to be perfect adhering to enormous rules and expectations placed upon all monarchs. Then when she became queen, she was also responsible for setting and having others adhere to the rules at that time. Upholding rules was very much part of that life. Those rules and expectations carried through in her subconscious mind with expectations that she be perfect still. And, when not perfect, emotional torment and guilt were felt for not being perfect. Blocks to forgiving herself also created blocks to receiving abundance in other ways.

The emotional baggage that we need to release for ourselves is often enormous because we are so hard on ourselves for our own unmet expectations. We are often so much more forgiving of others than of ourselves. We have compassion for others because we understand the human condition but, for some reason, often hold unrealistic standards as if we are above it.

We can be arrogant in our own expectations of ourselves as if we are above being human. As I said, even having an archangel as my high self, I am very human with very human faults and limitations and I need to forgive myself for human error. Those errors have happened lifetime after lifetime being on the planet learning the best practices as I evolve in this human experience.

Does Archangel Faith know best? Likely. But that isn’t why she is here. She is not here on the planet to display perfection but to experience life in this dimension and reality. And, so are you. You are here to have different experiences. And, sometimes those experiences are as a jerk. Do you forgive others who have been jerks at times and not you? There isn’t anyone on the planet who has not been a jerk at one time or another. Are you to judge yourself or others as to the degree you and they have been a jerk? NO, that is not your job. It is your job to learn to love yourself and others in spite of the times you and others have been a jerk. All have fallen from grace to one degree or another. It is time to find that grace within to forgive yourselves as well as others so all can find peace.

If someone continues to make the same mistake and does not learn to treat you the way you deserve, you can forgive them at the same time removing yourself from being a target.

It’s not about condoning bad behavior. It’s forgiving them for not having figured out best practices yet. Your holding onto a grudge for their lack of awareness doesn’t punish, fix or serve them but especially it doesn’t serve you. It gives your power away to them. If you consider that they haven’t learned best practices yet but you give your power away to someone who hasn’t learned best practices yet, that doesn’t necessarily make sense.

A best practice is learning tolerance, compassion and forgiveness. It may also be useful to set clear boundaries to not put yourself in harms way of someone who hasn’t learned optimal behavior to keep you spiritually, mentally, emotionally or physically safe. But, judging them for their lack of awareness or evolvement doesn’t help the situation.

People learn at the rate they learn. Their karma is put in place to assist them in learning quicker. If people continue to repeat behavior that doesn’t serve them, they will continue to create karmic opportunity to learn. Give them the space to learn but don’t spend the energy in not forgiving them if they are not a fast learner or don’t evolve as fast as you feel is appropriate. Not everyone has the ability to meet your standards including yourself. That is why you often have trouble forgiving yourself, which blocks your own freedom and abundance.

So rather than focus on what someone else is doing or not doing to you, focus on providing the freedom and abundance you divinely deserve by forgiving them as well as yourself for not meeting your own standards of perfection.


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Joy S. Pedersen, Founder of Express Success LLC, is a Licensed Spiritual Healer, Certified Spiritual Health Coach, Certified Law of Attraction Practitioner, non-denominational ordained minister and Doctor of Divinity, as well as a noted business consultant and networker with a celebrated international clientele with whom she works over the telephone or Skype.

She is also the twin flame of Archangel Michael. He asked her to channel his book, Wisdom of the Guardian: Treasures from Archangel Michael to Change Your Life and is the best-selling author of Clear Your Past and Change Your Future.

She works closely with individuals and businesses of all sizes to identify and clear their hidden challenges with money, relationships, career, business, health and well being. Her work includes intuitive gifts as well as clearing negative memories, emotions, property and karma.

For free gifts including report “What is Karma and The Cause and Effect of Your Karma” and an audio “Understanding Past Lives” and a list of “12 Hidden Causes of Your Challenges”, visit here.